Managing Expectations

There is a threshold for how much we can endure. Some never reach it. Or more accurately, are unable to recognize it.

These same people do not know what certain feelings are supposed to be - love, disappointment, pain. Everything is just a varied numbness.

A benchmark or comparison is a necessity for these people. How else would they know what is acceptable? If everything is functioning the way it is supposed to. How would you know you're doing right without some form of an example?

You can ask for advice. That's all you can do. But at the end of the day, you know that the voice in your  head is right, that the niggling feeling that something is wrong almost always means that it is. Even if you can't rate it on a scale. All you have to count on is in binary: 0 or 1.

Others don't understand this, this inability to articulate the wrongness you feel in exact terms. And often lose patience. What is more important - so have you. Lost patience with yourself.

It is then time to let things slide, and sweep the things you can't understand or face under the carpet. Trick is to never change the carpet, or look beneath it as you sweep more stuff under.